Don't Be Single With No Friends

Don’t Be Single With No Friends

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September 29, 2013
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Ecclesiastes 4:12, NLT: “12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”

My father used to always say “You have to try the spirit by the spirit”. And I never truly understood until my personal walk with God strengthened and started to transform my life. What it means is that if you know God has you on a certain path, your inner circle needs reflect that. Be like Jesus and serve and love those who God sends your way. But allow the Holy Spirit to reveal who your inner circle of friends should be.

As a single, this is critical. If you think being single is hard, try a few months or even years of being single with NO friends. Even worse, no friends and no relationship with God. To make it in this life as one of God’s singles you need God-focused, Christ-centered, and Holy Spirit-filled friendships. Without them you’re left to fend for yourself in terms of staying on God’s course for your life.

So here’s a few tips for how to recognize potential inner circle friends:

1) Know who you are and what your purpose in life is:
We learn about ourselves everyday and we change. But know who you are at the core of your being. Once you know this, it becomes easier to recognize God’s purpose for your life. Once you know your purpose you become more inclined to draw closer to God, which helps you recognize the difference between those you’re called to serve and love, and those God is placing in your inner circle.

2) Know what path someone is on before you form your inner circle:
Some people are only meant to stay with you during a season. Perhaps several. So a drastic difference in God-focused paths might not have any bearing on either of you due to the purpose in which God brought you together. But similar paths and goals are common among people in God-focused inner circles.

3) Pray and follow the Holy Spirit:
When you regularly communicate with God and invite the Holy Spirit into your life, sometimes it’s a no-brainer when someone just isn’t a candidate for close friendship with you. If you feel uneasy about forming a relationship deeper than acquaintance, don’t ignore that feeling. Pray and ask God for further guidance.

I thank God for the friendships He’s formed in my life. They are places where I can go to get more of HIM! They are also places where I learn to be more like Him while I do my best to allow my friends to see Him in me.

This topic is so important to me that I’m going to cover it in-depth in my upcoming book. (Click the image below for more information)

Until the next time, remember that God loves you and don’t give up on the journey to Mr. Right!

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Afi (pronounced Ah-fee) Pittman is an author, artist and the CEO of Author of Faith Enterprises – which was created to speak to the heart of today’s single, Christian woman. If you need encouragement and insight on how to live in victory while you’re on your journey to Mr. Right, please keep in touch with Afi by visiting www.authorofmyfaith.com and signing up for the company e-newsletter. To find out more about Afi, you can also visit www.churchmousehustler.com.