4 Things Single Christian Women Desiring Marriage Should Pray About

Inspiration: 4 Things Single Christian Women Desiring Marriage Should Pray About

Family, Dating and Relationships, Inspiration, Prayer Strategies
September 22, 2015
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“But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.” Matthew 6:6

I saw the movie The War Room last month the weekend after it came out. I loved the movie simply because it was a wholesome, Christian movie that successfully tackled difficult family and community life issues. I won’t get into them here just in case you haven’t seen the movie.

I will say, though, that I emulated the character Clara in the movie and made one of my rooms in my home my war room. And in just the few weeks I’ve been faithfully going to my war room every night, God has answered my prayers and even spoken to me as if we were having a conversation. That’s NEVER happened to me before!

I also read the book in about a week’s time and Elizabeth asks Clara basically if we should pray about things that it wouldn’t seem like God would care about. Clara explains in a way that helps Elizabeth understand that God cares about much more than we believe He does, and that if it’s important to us, it’s important to Him.

So I decided to ask God 3 specific things I should pray over my singleness (and that you should pray over yours) so that marriage is glorifying God in my life. He actually gave me 4 things single Christian women desiring marriage should pray about:

1)Pray about your healing and restoration: In my book, How to Go From a Hot, Single Mess to Ready for God’s Best, I talk about how unhealed wounds from trauma or unfortunate life circumstances can be a reason for unwanted and prolonged singleness. I also talk about what you need to do NOW to stop wasting your life by acting out of fear, hurt and anger over old wounds. If you are constantly finding yourself overreacting, blaming, automatically assuming the worst about people, or if you’ve consistently had others provide this feedback to you about yourself, it’s time to get to the root cause of your behavior. If you don’t, you will continue to sabotage your own life with negative and harmful behaviors that repel the very things you want in life. So pray and ask God to reveal to you who to reach out to and what to do so that can heal and be restored.

2) Your sexuality: God asks us to only have sex within the marriage bed. But everywhere you look – from the most popular TV shows to to pulpit in your own church – sexual immorality and scandal is tolerated and even celebrated. Instead of using our culture’s glamorization of sexual deviance, immodesty and immorality as a gauge for how to live your own life and conduct your romantic relationships, pray and ask God to reveal to you IN HIS WORD what His standards are for sex, intimacy and love, and to give you the courage to live that out in your own life – regardless of what “everyone else” is doing.

3) Your lifestyle: Your lifestyle consists of self-care, work-life balance, relationships, social activities and community involvement. It’s the sum total of how you live your life to include your personal relationship with God. So if your goal is to get married (which is a major life decision) your lifestyle should reflect and support that. Time wasters (dating and sleeping with unavailable men), bad habits (declining social invitations, neglecting your health), and negative attitudes (believing you’ll never meet a man who wants to marry you) will all hinder or stop your goal of marriage. I also cover the topic of how to adopt a lifestyle that will support your goal of getting married in How to Go From a Hot, Single Mess to Ready for God’s Best.

4) Mentorship: A mentor doesn’t always have to be someone you know personally. They can be people whose books you read, whose sermons you listen to online, or who you’ve met but don’t interact with on a daily basis. Someone I knew once said that success leaves clues. If you’re not in a season of your life to have a mentor in person, definitely pay attention to the clues of success that those you’re watching are leaving you. If you are meeting people who are where you want to be (i.e. in Christ-centered marriages, godly mothers, rooted in Christian communities), ask them to mentor you and pay attention to what they tell you. Then do what they recommend.

And here’s a fifth thing to pray about: your husband. Yes, you’re still single but hope isn’t enough to get you to married. Faith without works is dead and a double-minded woman can’t expect to receive anything from God. So if you’re not sure how to pray for your husband while you’re still single, here are 3 specific things you can start with.

Did you watch the War Room movie yet? If so, talk to me by leaving me a comment below and tell me what you thought and what you learned from it.

AND check out this additional resource, a prayer guide for single Christian women that targets areas of prayer you can cover in your next and future prayer sessions.