5 MORE Things People Do When They Value Themselves

Lifestyle for Christian Women, Self Care
July 21, 2016
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I’ve learned a lot about taking care of and valuing myself in the past almost year. You see, I’m someone who – like lots of people – had to learn later in life how to take care of myself. While that left me with many years of not taking care of myself and seeing the results of that, since I have been taking care of myself I’ve also seen the fruits of positive and effective self-care, and from adopting self-worth and self-value. In that process, I’ve identified 10 characteristics of people who value themselves. Here are the second 5:

6. Honor Their Basic Unique Needs: For instance, I’m an introvert. Which means that although I love people, being around large groups for extended periods of time (think 3 days straight) is draining. So I have a unique need for alone time prior to and especially after being around large groups of people. As a result, at this point in my life, I do not maintain close friendships with people who – after I’ve communicated this – disregard my need for personal space and talk about my needs with a condescending and dismissive tone. What about you? What are your basic and unique needs? Have you ever had “friends” dismiss and dishonor those needs?

7. Look For the Best In Themselves and Others: It’s not hard at all to pick others apart. Or find a list of things about yourself that you don’t like. But what people do when they value themselves is find the best in themselves and others. There’s enough negativity floating around in the world. How about lifting yourself and others up for a change?

8. Treat Others Well: It’s not hard to give others what you give yourself. And when you value yourself, you’re kind to yourself and treat yourself well. Therefore, you can do the same for others without fear of being taken advantage of or abused.

9. Invest In Themselves: Whether it’s reading that book or taking that class you’ve always wanted to, investing in yourself shows that you value yourself. No interest or aptitude is weird, stupid or useless. God gave it to you for a reason. Invest in those interests and increase your value. And don’t let other people tell you what you can and can’t do!

10. Set Themselves Up For Success: Self-sabotage is an indicator that you hate or dislike yourself. Think about it. Think about the last person you disliked so bad you could taste it. And if they did something wrong to you, chances are you probably did or daydreamed about ways to sabotage them or get them back. Well, you could wind up doing the same thing to yourself when you don’t like yourself. But when you value yourself, you set yourself up for success by doing things like leaving the house in plenty of time to be on time, preparing yourself for a major opportunity, or putting your best foot forward.